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7 Forgotten Female Erogenous Zones

Pay attention to these body parts to increase your pleasure—and his

By Sarah Jio

You already know about the usual suspects, but if you’re looking to amp things up in the bedroom tonight, ask your husband to focus on some parts of your body that you both may have forgotten about.

1. The Mons 
The what? You may be unfamiliar with this word, but it’s time to get acquainted, says Michael Krychman, MD, CM, medical director of Sexual Medicine and the executive director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine in Newport Beach, California. “The mons, or area above the genitals where the pubic hair grows, can also be interesting when incorporated into the sexual repertoire,” he explains. “Caressing the hair area or gentle touch to this area can also be exciting and pleasurable.” To make it even more enjoyable, try Zestra, a botanical oil designed to increase arousal and sensitivity. Feeling shy or uncomfortable about the most private places of your body, the mons or otherwise? Learning to embrace, and even love, your body for what it is can go a long way in the pleasure department, say experts. In fact, an Indiana University study published in a recent issue of the International Journal of Sexual Health found that women who feel more positively about their genitals have better and more frequent orgasms. (Photo by Shutterstock)

2. Behind the Knees 
One of the most-ignored sexual hot spots in the female body? Hint: It’s also a place you might feel really ticklish. According to Dr. Krychman, the skin behind the knees is an area you might ask your husband to focus on, either by kissing or gently massaging with an oil or lotion. “Some women find this area especially exciting and pleasurable when showered with gentle touch or caresses,” he says. And don’t forget the tops of the knees, too, adds Ava Cadell, a sex educator and founder of Loveology University in Los Angeles. “The knees are a major erogenous zone—all around the kneecap. This is one place where a little nibbling is often welcome too.” (Photo by Shutterstock)

3. The Abs 
While it might sound like a ticklish scenario, letting your partner stroke or even massage your belly can be an erotic experience for some women, says Amy Levine, a New York City–based sex coach, certified sexuality educator and founder of SexEdSolutions.com. In fact, she adds, in some rare cases, women have been able to reach orgasm simply by doing certain abdominal exercises. “It’s unlikely that the majority of us will be able to experience the same effect,” she says, “but incorporating some ab work in the bedroom could help get you in the mood. Not to mention, the thought of his moving farther south can be downright exciting, likely causing your vaginal muscles to contract from the anticipation, boosting your arousal and possibly leading to climax without direct genital contact.” (Photo by Shutterstock)

4. The Lips 
Want to have better sex tonight? Try this exercise: Spend at least five minutes kissing before intercourse. “Lips remain one of the most erotic areas of a woman’s body,” Dr. Krychman says. Here’s how to rev things up: “Vary the strength and intensity of kisses,” he suggests. “Even if you gently caress the lips with a finger—you may find this exhilarating.” (Photo by Shutterstock)

5. The Scalp 
You love it when your hair stylist gives your head a massage while she’s shampooing, right? Well, get your husband in on the action, too. Here’s why: Your scalp is covered with nerve endings that make it super-sensitive to the touch, explains Cadell. She, and other experts, say that a good scalp rub may not only release tension but also may increase blood flow—flooding your body with the feel-good hormones dopamine and serotonin. (Photo by Shutterstock)

6. The Feet 
“What can be a relaxing and soothing ritual after a long day can also be a turn-on for you both,” says Levine. “Some men find women’s feet to be exciting (think: foot fetish) and with the right mindset, you can too.” In fact, the ancient practice of reflexology indicates that certain pressure points in your feet can trigger sexual arousal. Whether it works or not is yet to be determined, but many women do find that a foot massage given by the man they love can spark arousal. Why not see for yourself? If your hubby isn’t sure about where to rub, help him out by getting a pair of Sexy Love Sox, which designate which areas on the foot represent “the body’s erogenous zones.” ($14.95; BasicKnead.com) (Photo by Shutterstock)

7. The Neck 
“The neck is a very sensual part of our bodies,” says Levine. “There is nothing like a man you're attracted to standing behind you, massaging your shoulders and seductively making a trail of soft kisses from the hairline to the base of the neck.” So, here’s your homework assignment, ladies: Ask your husband to show you a little neck love! “Feeling the sensations of his soft lips and imagining where those lips are traveling can really get our juices flowing,” she adds. (Photo by Shutterstock)

Sarah Jio is the health and fitness blogger for Glamour.com. Visit her blog, Vitamin G.

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So here's my story, about a year ago I decided to take the god-awful drug propecia due to very subtle hair loss within the hairline area. I took the drug for a very short amount of time, but basically it was enough to destroy my libido and give me a case of ED that lasted months. I ended up at this forum since a lot of people seem to be pros on hormone problems and these sort of issues, I used dermacrine sustain/sustain alpha and after about 3 or 4 months worth of using that product I seemed to have regained a good amount of what I had been lacking, but I think there is more that needs to be done. These sort of problems have been destroying me emotionally, I am having all sorts of intimacy problems and fear of getting close to girls, and the fear of failure has been killing my game, as well as performance. It truly is depressing as I'm sure anyone here can understand that female companionship with a compatible partner is something that can really brighten up life in aspects beyond sexual interaction.

About a month or so ago I met an amazing girl, she was very obviously into me and when I met up with her she was wearing a skirt with boots (this was the only time I have ever seen her wear anything that shows her legs) and she had her hair dyed, and I am almost positive that she did all this for me, for that one night. She also had a tongue piercing in that night which has also not made an appearance since then. She had every obvious sign of being attracted to me and was sending me all the right signals, and to be honest it kind of blew my mind. She was looking gorgeous and had the warmest smile on her face, and it felt amazing that this was there for me. So we were standing alone on the street just me and her and she was up close and had her arms around me, I was also kind of drunk and this was the perfect chance to start making out with her. I just couldn't go for it though, because I was so goddamn nervous that I wouldn't be able to get it up all the way, and like a 14 year old boy I couldn't even make it to first base. This girl had such a ridiculous amount of things in common with me, and I really tend to not find that in most of the girls I meet, it was as if god sent her from the heavens to me to be my vessel. There was obvious chemistry between us two, and I really could have seen things going somewhere if I had sealed the deal that night. I could have seen her as being the person to give me a positive outlook on life and pull me out of this damn depression I've been in for so long. If I could live that night again, I probably would have gone for it even if I couldn't get it up all the way, just to gain that level of intimacy with her. After I blew it on that night with her, she seriously won't even acknowledge me or even be involved in conversing with me even if I just say hi, for all I know she's probably boned another dude since that night. I guess indecision is one of the worst traits you can show a girl. I've been suffering with this failure for basically every day since that fateful night, and it seeps into my subconscious and makes me feel bitter and I can't help it. I think it causes me to have a negative attitude and sometimes even causes me to treat those around me poorly.

Thankfully I'm at a point where I can enjoy masturbating and looking at porn again, although I'm thinking I'm going to have to fully give up porn to develop my own mental intimacy capabilities, and cut down on the masturbation as much as possible. Porn just can't compare to actually having someone, and for the most part it's just plain dirty and involves people I generally wouldn't respect if I actually met in real life. Getting off on some dirty smut just feels kinda pathetic after a while.

I'm sorry about the ridiculous amount of personal detail I've put in this post, it's just been killing me, and I really don't feel like I can talk about this with anyone . I feel a bit better having have written it down actually. It really sucks to be feeling like this, and I've recently kind of made friends with a 26 year old fat dude who still lives with his family who has the habit of basically giving me vicodins for free, and it gets harder to refuse him when I'm feeling this low. 

I am also starting to fear the fact that my member might be shrinking, since I feel that the rare times I get a really stiff morning erection, it actually hurts a little bit.

So basically I am pretty desperate, help me out guys, I don't want this **** to ruin my life anymore. I am looking for ways to increase libido but more importantly hardness. I think I'm going to give sustain alpha another cycle along with the rest of the "testosterone recovery stack". I am also going to give coconut oil a try, and I've already got some diesel test pills laying around.

I am thinking of also maybe trying out citruline malate since people say it helps with blood flow. I am also gonna try to sleep much better and eat breakfast more often. I'd like to quit smoking, but it's hard to quit, especially if you're feeling as bitter as I am. 

So please help me out and give me some sort of suggestions, I need my libido, erections, and sexual performance to be at a point that is beyond doubt and I can be ready to go whenever and wherever. I don't want a temporary fix, I want a permanent solution so I can never worry about this sort of thing for as long as I am young! It hurts especially more coupled with the fact that I'm only 20.



How to help your female partner have orgasms

Written by Dr David Delvin, GP and family planning specialist and Christine Webber, psychotherapist

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Many women like much more foreplay or loveplay than men imagine.
These days most women want orgasms. That wasn't always the case. A couple of generations or so ago, many adult females simply didn't have climaxes – and a lot of them weren't bothered about it. Probably a lot of them didn't actually know what an orgasm was.
And some doctors claimed that, for a huge proportion of women, it was 'normal' to have no experience of orgasm. Indeed, as late as the 1970s there were still some who maintained that the female orgasm didn't exist – and was simply a myth made up by the media.
All that has changed now. These days, medical opinion is that every woman should be able to have orgasms – if she wants to. Furthermore, the view of most sex experts is that the majority of women are capable of multiple orgasms – if they wish to have them. In general, the ability to have multiple orgasms is greater in more mature women.

What is a female orgasm?

We're writing this explanation in the assumption that you – the reader – are male. But what follows will be of interest to a lot of female readers too.
What happens in a woman's body during a climax is very like what happens in your (male) body when you ejaculate. In other words, there's a feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything 'blows' in a great blast of ecstasy. This 'orgasmic moment' is characterised by surges of contractions in the sex organs, occurring almost every 0.8 seconds.
Men are well aware that these throbs of pleasure are accompanied by the pumping out of spurts of seminal fluid. Obviously this doesn't happen in women.
A few females do produce some fluid at orgasm, but the impression given in so many erotic stories that most women 'ejaculate' is not correct. Only a minority of females do this.

Multiple orgasm

The other big difference between male and female orgasm is this: after the first climax, many women can 'come' again, often within a minute or two.
This ability is extremely rare in males. Relatively few young women can achieve multiple orgasm, because it's an ability that usually has to be learned. But with the help of a skilled lover, most women can eventually achieve the capacity for multiple orgasms – if they so desire.

Bringing women to a climax

For men perhaps the most important thing to realise about female climaxes is that with women, it's not a mechanical thing – as it generally is with men.
You see, most males will ejaculate quite quickly if they have their penises rubbed. This applies even if the circumstances aren't very romantic – or even if they don't particularly like the person who's doing the rubbing! Women are not like this. Female orgasm isn't a push-button response. The conditions have to be right.
Although females vary, many women need the following if they're going to reach a climax easily:
  • a romantic atmosphere
  • pleasant, comfortable surroundings
  • a partner who they really like
  • a feeling of being wanted and appreciated
  • a good flow of natural lubrication - so that the delicate female parts don't get sore
  • a skilled partner who knows how to stimulate the clitoris.
Unless you can provide the above, you are not going to have great success in giving your partner orgasms.
Please bear in mind that – contrary to what many men think – sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not very good at stimulating the woman's clitoris. Nearly all females need additional stimulation of the clitoris by fingers or mouth.
So, try not to give the impression to your female partner that she ‘ought’ to be able to climax through intercourse alone and that that is what you think of as ‘proper sex’. The sex menu can be a varied one. Some women, for example, find it really easy to climax through oral sex – particularly if the guy is patient and sensitive to what his partner wants. And how does he find out what she wants and what turns her on? Well, a wise man will ask her.
What he should not do is to assume that his technique is flawless and that if his partner does not come, it’s her fault. Plenty of men think that because a previous girlfriend always came a certain way, this one should follow suit. Women are not all the same in their likes or dislikes. So do try to treat your partner as an individual.
Many women like much more foreplay or loveplay than men imagine. They want to feel that the man is keen on giving pleasure – and not just in a hurry to have his own climax. In fact, the worst thing a man can say to a woman is: ‘Haven’t you come yet?’ This is likely to make her feel extremely inadequate and will ruin any build-up of sexual pleasure and tension that might have been taking place.

What to do

In summary, here's what to do if you want to bring your partner to orgasm regularly:
  1. don't be in a rush.
  2. don't be too demanding – it's not an Olympic event.
  3. talk to your partner, and ask her what she wants you to do to her.
  4. always create a romantic atmosphere.
  5. make sure that everything is comfortable and nice for her.
  6. give her lots of kisses and cuddles before you even think about making any approach to her sexual area.
  7. when you do start to stroke, rub or kiss her genitals, don't rush into 'attacking' her clitoris. Take things gently, and see what she wants.
  8. use her own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris. (If she is over 40, it may be a good idea to use some additional lubrication from a chemist or a sex shop).
  9. remember that stimulation of the clitoris is the key to female orgasm.
  10. sometimes encourage her to 'run' your sex sessions. You can learn a lot by watching how she stimulates herself or by really listening to her when she suggests a sex position, or a particular caress.

Further information

  1. There is a companion article to this one on our site. It's for women who are anxious to learn how to achieve orgasm and is called: 'Are you having trouble reaching orgasm – a guide for women'.
  2. For women who have real problems in reaching orgasm, counselling might be an answer. There are a number of places that women can contact forsex therapy.
You can definitely increase the likelihood of orgasm in your partner, by keeping your love life as varied as possible. To that end, you might like to encourage her to visit some of the sex shop sites that are run by women for women. These sites have videos, sex education books, sex toys and various other items for sale that might help to give your sex life a boost. Our favourites are:
  • Passion 8: http://www.passion8.com
  • Sh!: http://www.sh-womenstore.com
Last updated 18.05.2009

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